Are you Still under Guidance of your So called Guru's ? Ask them the Definition of Maturity ?

As soon as we start or are able to put our mind to use, we keep listening from all around us to be mature and use our mind.

starting from our parents at home, friends at outdoor, religious Guru's at temples or worship places, teachers at Schools, our boss at office ....everybody tries to impose their expertise and teach us to be mature.  

Every time they keep lecturing and embracing us as when we commit some mistake...  

To be honest, I used to listen to them very diligently as I used to think that being older, aged and more experienced they must have a clear understanding about " what maturity is all about " . 

i tried to google it..and it says " the state, fact, or period of being mature. " 

again a confused meaning...:) more or similar to what most of us know...

While i was exploring more about the Interdependence and its important...i got the real meaning of " maturity " and here it is :

" Maturity is Our ability to express our feelings , emotions and convictions in balance with the consideration feelings and thoughts of other people. "    

Wow...it just blew away my mind... what a deep and clear definition .....now let me share with you that these are not my own definition...i just got it From the book of " Stephen R. Covey" 

I am just writing this in my flavor and language...all these were already there, that's what the author also says...these are in line with the laws of nature....

the immediate thought that flashed into my mind after this definition was that. Everybody around us was just pretending to be an expert ....this meaning is totally based on Fundamentals, values and Principles...and i really got a clear message ..and that's why i choose to share with you..

Now let's See, how can we use this concept in our daily life...

normally while dealing with any person at the office, business or in the family..we always think to Win over others...without giving a single thought that the other person is also having the same thoughts , feelings and intentions in his head...

Now lets say, you had a tough argument and WIN. Means other lose...so this situation becomes WIN/Lose. it means in order to secure your win. Some one has to lose. however if you go deep and understand the law of nature says that everyone can win in any thing. and there is no need to lose for any one. 

so if we go by this law of nature...both of us should win...means a WIN/WIN condition . right ?

but as we human beings are hard wired by nature to win....we tend to win every time. So what is the way that both of us can be WIN/WIN.

and it is here that the definition of maturity does its magic...by using our courage & Consideration...We can easily accomplish a WIn/WIN Condition. Let's take it one by one.

Case-01 : if Your Courage & Consideration is at Low Level , You will really not be able to understand other Persons feelings , thoughts and what He/She wants...and both will end up with Lose/Lose condition. { Q-1 in Picture }  

Case-02 : if Your Courage is High but Consideration is at Low Level , You will not Consider &  try to understand the feelings , thoughts of the opposite person. and what He/She wants . and because you are overpowered. You will win and other will lose....and that is WIN/LOSE Condition. Here you can win...but its at the cost of killing other person's self esteem, passion, energy and emotions...may be dreams. Respect for you...{ Q-2 in Picture }   

 Case-03 : if Your Courage is Low but Consideration is at High Level , You will Consider &  try to understand the feelings , thoughts of the opposite person. and what he/She wants but you will totally ignore your own internal values, feelings & thoughts. and because you give up your courage and given power to opposite person......you will Lose and other will Win....and that is Lose/Win Condition. Here you can let other other person win...but its at the cost of killing your own self esteem, passion, energy and emotions...and may be dreams....and you lose respect to that person....{ Q-4 in Picture } 

Case-04 : The best Option is this : when Your Courage & Consideration both are at High Level , You will Consider &  try to understand the feelings , thoughts of the opposite person. and what he/She wants and at the same time you will maintain Your own internal values , principles , Feelings and thoughts by not ignoring them . So you take care of both parties' feelings, thoughts and values and that is very crucial in all walks of life. this is a WIN/WIN Condition.......{ Q-3 in Picture }